More About Me

I'm Tiffanie, a 31 33 34 year old, happily married, fur-mamma (check our My Fur-Family), lover of all things DIY, over-analytical, sometimes neurotic, rule-following, Jesus-loving gal just trying to make it through the craziness of this journey through the dreaded world of I-N-F-E-R-T-I-L-I-T-Y. My husband and I are both educators. He's a teacher and I'm a former school psychologist who's now a school improvement coach. We've been married over 2 3 4 years (since June 22nd, 2013) and I'm so blessed to have him by my side.

We've been trying to conceive since May/June of 2014, so we're now almost two three four years into this journey. For those first two years I was very adamant on not telling anyone (this went for my poor husband too) about our infertility struggles. I just didn't want anyone to know and I refused to allow myself to have the unwanted label as "that poor girl or poor couple who can't get pregnant." I didn't want the pity. I didn't want the "I feel so sorry for you guys" looks. I didn't want the questions... Really, I just didn't want to accept the reality of our infertility.

Here we are though right smack dab in the midst of this crazy ride and I've now accept what we're facing and opened up to our family, friends, and complete strangers about all of it. The burden of my own chosen silence has caused both my husband and I to carry the weight of a misunderstood and unintentionally placed "shame" for far too long, so we're now trying to help bring a voice to the realities and struggles of infertility.

It's a topic that's rarely talked about and some how carries such a strongly perceived stigma in our society. So it's time to break that and bring a face to the struggle. It's not our fault. It's not something to be ashamed of. It's not something we did wrong. It is a medical condition, which many well-intentioned folks seem to not realize when they offer advice to simply "relax and let it happen" or "don't stress out about it." Truth is, there's many misconceptions and misunderstandings about the realities of infertility.

Each of us struggling through this journey has a right to choose how we want to handle it. To choose who we want to tell. To choose who we want to keep it private from. And to choose when and how we want to share our story, when we feel that it's right.

This blog has simply become a small step in my own journey and my hope is to help remind, even just one person, that they're not alone in this battle... and that there are so many of us out there who can "relate" and "understand" on some level to all the intricacies, feelings, frustrations, disappointments, and flat out moments when you want to scream, give up, and slam your head into a wall...We are here for each other and that's the beauty of this whole world of women I've gotten to know through this blogging experience.

To all of you out there who have become my "blog friends," to those whose blogs I will come across, and even to those whom I may never have the pleasure of interacting with... THANK YOU! Thank you for making the choice to share your story and help encourage, inspire, and even make laugh women like me, who sometimes need nothing more than just a simple reminder that someone else out there "gets it"...

And to all of you finding your way through this journey, blogging or not, much love, prayers, and well wishes for a happy, healthy pregnancy, or growing your family by whatever means are meant for you, sooner rather than later!


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